Commitment is KEY.

I have come to find something I hate even more than cleaning the bathroom.

Cleaning the stove.

Food gets everywhere. Even in eyes on the stove that I never used! We have a gas stove, so I have to take off the little covers every time I want to clean it, and the crumbs get everywhere, and it is just such a hassle.

Speaking of hassles, I have come across another obstacle in learning how to live with a male. When I was single, I never thought about how wanting to read before I went to bed might ever be a problem. However, apparently Rob is very sensitive to light. So, I am trying to read the book ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ (which I will discuss more later). At first, I just turned on the simple night light beside my bed to light the reading pathway for my eyes. This ended up being a no-go for the 1^st Lieutenant who needs his beauty sleep. He proceeded to give me a head light to wear on my head at night when I want to read. I feel like one of those kids who has to wear head gear at night to go to sleep. I don’t mind wearing it. Just another one of those things you don’t really think of before saying ‘I do.’

In the book ‘Eat, Pray, Love,’ the author is going through a journey of many sorts. Not only is she embarking on travel escapades to three of the most beautiful places on earth (Italy, India, and Indonesia) but she is also on a journey of dealing with a divorce. When the book starts out, she is telling about how she was happily married and had everything she wanted. She had a job that took her traveling around the world; her husband bought her the house of her dreams; she was happy. Until she turned 30 and realized that she no longer wanted to be married. She didn’t want to have kids. She didn’t want to live in the house of her dreams. She said that she had brought herself to the place she was and just didn’t want to be there anymore. Long story short, she just up and leaves her husband. Not because he cheated on her or was treating her poorly. In fact, he provided for her above and beyond her physical needs. No, she just didn’t want to settle down. After 8-10 years of marriage, she just decided she didn’t want to be with him anymore. Out of nowhere. She wanted to travel instead. And have meaningless sex with random people she met.

Now, this is introduced in the first couple of chapters of the book, so I hope I am not ruining the storyline for anyone. But when I read this, I had to really consider whether or not I wanted to continue on with this book. It made me so mad. I just kept thinking of how popular the movie and the book were, and how many women and teenage girls in America have read/seen it and had the message engrained in their head that the only thing that matters in life is for them to be happy and to do whatever makes you happy – even if that means leaving the person that you promised forever to. Even thinking about it now makes me livid. As if marriage isn’t already hard enough, to have this lie embedded in so many places in our society is clearly Satan at work. Many people divorce their spouse and claim that “God wants them to be happy.” Well, I have got some news for you. I don’t know what translation of the Bible you are reading, but being happy in our sin is not what God wants. And divorcing your husband just because you feel like it is wrong.

I know I am getting off on my soapbox, but I feel very strongly about this. Rob and I know one thing for sure about our lives: we are staying together forever. No matter what. We were fully aware before our wedding what marriage entailed. We knew that there would be good days and bad, and we made a commitment in our hearts, our minds, and to each other that we would never leave each other. Because if God is the center of your relationship, then nothing is impossible to overcome. No problem, no addiction, no fight, no nothing.

So Dear American Women – please hear this. God wants you to be filled with joy and with the Holy Spirit and to listen to His will for your lives. I wish happiness upon each and every one of you to the extent that it is glorifying to God. For those of you who aren’t Christians, then know that there is a right and a wrong. And committing your life to another person and then breaking that promise is wrong. Take it seriously.

I promise next time I won’t be so harsh

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